Busting The Top 6 Sexual Myths

It’s easy to get caught up in the hype of what we’re told is right and wrong when it comes to sex.

We’ve all heard our fair share of myths, ranging from abstinence being the only truly safe option to pleasure-seeking always leading to regretful consequences.

But despite popular belief, these assumptions are not necessarily true for everyone.

In this article, we’ll be busting through the top 6 sexual myths and giving you a glimpse into some of the realities that exist beyond them.

The truth behind each myth can vary on an individual basis, depending on your personal values and beliefs.

So if you find yourself wondering how much of these tales are fact or fiction, then read on!

Let’s explore together how far-fetched some of these so-called “truths” really are as we uncover facts about sexuality that may surprise you.

We know it’s intimidating — but fear not!

Our goal here isn’t to make anyone feel uncomfortable; instead, we want to provide clarity around those nagging questions that linger in the back of our minds while also honoring each person’s unique perspective and choices regarding their own sexual health journey.

With that said, let’s get started by diving headfirst into debunking these myths one at a time!

1. Myth 1: Women Don’t Enjoy Sex

Women have been told for too long that sex isn’t enjoyable, or even necessary. It’s time to put an end to this damaging myth and celebrate the true pleasure that women can experience. Let’s start busting these top 6 sexual myths by looking at Myth 1: Women don’t enjoy sex.

In reality, most women love experiencing physical intimacy with their partners and derive great pleasure from it.

Studies show that when a woman feels understood, respected and appreciated in her relationship, she is more likely to reach orgasm during sex.

That being said, some women still struggle to get aroused due to low self-esteem or past trauma; however, this does not mean they do not find any enjoyment in the act itself.

With open communication between partners about what feels good and having realistic expectations of pleasure without pressure, both parties can benefit greatly.

Now let’s move on to Myth 2: Porn is realistic…

2. Myth 2: Porn Is Realistic

Clinging onto the notion of ‘normalcy’ can be a dangerous game, like trying to catch lightning in a jar.

Pornography has long been seen as an accurate portrayal of sex and sexuality, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. In reality, porn is often a highly stylized fantasy built on unrealistic stereotypes which are not representative of real-life sexual relationships or experiences.

It’s important to recognize that what we see in pornography isn’t necessarily how things work when it comes to intimacy between two people: there’s no one-size-fits-all approach here.

Instead, everyone needs to find their own way by exploring different forms of pleasure and communication with each other.

That means being open about desires, fantasies, boundaries and expectations so that both partners feel comfortable expressing themselves without fear of judgement or criticism.

What matters most is understanding that every relationship is unique and valid – regardless of whether it follows traditional norms or not.

3. Myth 3: Monogamy Is “Normal”

Monogamy has often been accepted as the “normal” way to have sexual relationships. But this is a misconception, and it’s important to recognize that there are many forms of consensual non-monogamous relationships out there.

Humans aren’t made for one partner alone, so we shouldn’t feel pressured into conforming to the idea of monogamy.

The desire for multiple partners isn’t something to be ashamed of or judged harshly for – it’s natural and healthy in some cases.

In fact, even if we don’t act on our desires, understanding them can help us build strong relationships with ourselves and others.

We should be open-minded when it comes to different types of relationship models such as polyamory or an open relationship.

By doing so, we’ll create more room for personal growth and exploration without feeling like we’re stuck with just one option.

It’s time to move past outdated notions about who does or doesn’t count as “normal” when it comes to sex and love.

Everyone deserves respect regardless of their relationship status or what they choose to do with their lives.

So let’s keep pushing forward towards greater acceptance and break down any barriers preventing true love from blossoming in all its beautiful forms – whatever those may look like!

With that said, let’s now turn our attention towards the next myth: The size of genitals matters…

4. Myth 4: The Size Of Genitals Matters

Ah, the size of our genitalia. It’s no wonder that this fourth myth about sexual matters has been around for ages – it can be a source of much insecurity and self-doubt among many people. But let’s take a closer look at what science actually tells us on this matter.

First off, when it comes to penis size in particular, research shows that there is an incredibly narrow range considered ‘normal,’ with most men falling within this bracket regardless of race or ethnicity.

The same goes for women as well; studies have shown that vagina length barely differs from one woman to another.

So when we consider how little variation there really is between individuals in terms of genitals size, it’s quite clear that being worried about being too big or small just isn’t necessary!

In addition, even though some may believe differently, having large genitals does not automatically make someone better in bed either.

In reality, it takes more than physical traits alone to become great lovers; communication, intimacy and trust all play important roles too! After all, sex is so much more than just bodies coming together – it requires emotional connection as well.

5. Myth 5: Men Think About Sex All The Time

It’s no secret that men think about sex. It’s even become a stereotype in popular culture – the ‘horny man’ trope is everywhere, from sitcoms to commercials.

But does this mean it’s true?

Is there any truth to the myth that all men think about sex all the time? Let’s explore and find out!

When it comes down to it, not all men are thinking about sex 24/7.

Sure, some guys have a higher libido than others, but regardless of gender or orientation, sexual thoughts will vary depending on individual biology and psychology.

In fact, research has found that women often experience spontaneous sexual thoughts just as much as their male counterparts – if not more so!

So while many individuals might struggle with an overactive mind when it comes to matters of love and lust, this doesn’t necessarily hold true for everyone.

At its core, this myth relies heavily on outdated notions of masculinity and femininity – ones which don’t really reflect reality.

Everyone experiences different levels of desire; what we do know is that these desires can be influenced by external factors like stress level or relationship status.

Ultimately, understanding one another’s needs should come before judgement based on stereotypes.

Moving forward into our exploration of myths surrounding sexuality then: let’s take a look at how fixed and unchangeable sexual orientation actually is…

6. Myth 6: Sexual Orientation Is Fixed And Unchangeable

Sixth in the list of sexual myths is that sexual orientation is fixed and unchangeable. This myth disregards the fact that people’s feelings can change over time, and that nobody’s sexuality is set in stone.

It also overlooks the many shades of grey between heterosexuality and homosexuality; bisexuality, pansexuality, queer, polysexuality – all these exist!

It’s ok if someone has different attractions or desires at different times throughout their life. We must remember to respect individuals’ right to self-determination when it comes to their own bodies.

People should be free to explore and express themselves safely without judgement from others.

Let’s remind ourselves there are an infinite number of ways for us to show up sexually in this world – no one should ever feel limited by false stereotypes or restrictive expectations about how they should identify or behave sexually.


The reality is, sex can be a complicated and confusing topic. With so many myths surrounding it, it’s important to bust some of the most common ones to make sure everyone has an enjoyable and safe experience.

For example, did you know that according to a survey from 2019, only 18% of adults correctly answered questions about sexual health topics? This shows how much misinformation is still out there when it comes to this matter.

It’s vital for us all to take responsibility in educating ourselves on issues related to sex and relationships – both our own and those around us.

We should also feel empowered enough to ask questions if we’re ever unsure or curious about something – no question is too small!

Ultimately I hope this article was able to shed light on some of the bigger misconceptions around sex, helping people have better conversations with their friends and partners alike.

Frequently Asked Questions

  1. How Can I Make Sex More Enjoyable For My Partner?

    Sex can be a thrilling experience, like riding a roller coaster of emotions. However, it is important to ensure that both partners are getting the most out of their time together. How can you make sex more enjoyable for your partner? Here’s what you need to know.

    First and foremost, communication is key! Talk openly with each other about the things that feel good and what don’t work as well – this will help create an atmosphere where pleasure and satisfaction come first. Additionally, don’t forget to show affection during intimate moments; whether it be through physical touch or verbal compliments, expressing how much they mean to you will encourage them to open up even further in the bedroom.

    It is also essential to get creative with positions and techniques when making love – experimentation not only helps discover new erogenous zones but also keeps things interesting by mixing in some surprise into the mix. Don’t let fear keep you from exploring your fantasies either – talking freely about desires without judgement creates a safe space for exploration. As long as mutual trust and respect are maintained, pushing boundaries can lead to unexpected levels of intimacy between partners.

    So go ahead; have fun, communicate honestly and try something new every now and then – all these steps combined are surefire ways to ensure everyone involved gets the best out of their sexual experiences together!

  2. What Type Of Porn Is Appropriate For My Age/Situation?

    In the age of digitalization, it’s no surprise that porn has become an integral part of our lives. But with all its complexities and nuances, how do we discern what kind of porn is appropriate for us? To help you out, here are a few guidelines to keep in mind while navigating the world of adult entertainment:
    1.          First and foremost, be mindful of your age; some content may not be suitable or legal depending on where you live.
    2.          Consider your comfort level when viewing different types of porn – if it makes you feel uncomfortable then don’t watch it!
    3.          Use discretion when accessing pornographic material as many websites contain viruses or malware that can damage your device and/or personal information.

    The internet provides endless options for adult entertainment so take advantage of the abundance available but also remember to use caution when doing so.

    Pornography can open up conversations about sex between partners and provide valuable insight into sexual exploration without having to engage in any physical activity – making it a great option for those looking to learn more about their sexuality in a safe environment.

    That being said, make sure to choose content which doesn’t glamorize unhealthy relationships or behaviors like violence against women, racism etc., as this could have negative repercussions down the line. So instead of getting caught off-guard by something inappropriate, practice responsible consumption and stay safe online!

  3. Is It Possible To Be In A Successful Non-Monogamous Relationship?

    Navigating relationships can be a tricky business, and sometimes we don’t even know where to start. A non-monogamous relationship is an alternative that some people choose when considering their romantic future – but does it have the potential to be successful?

    The answer is yes! While it may not come as easy for everyone and requires open communication between all parties involved, there are many benefits of maintaining a healthy non-monogamous relationship. The key is understanding what works best for you and your partner(s) in order to make sure both/all parties feel secure, comfortable and fulfilled.

    Things like setting boundaries early on, being honest about needs and expectations, developing trust with each other, discussing any risks or issues openly – these are all important aspects of making sure everyone involved feels safe within the dynamic.

    It’s always daunting entering uncharted territory; however, if approached with respect and consideration towards those around us then a successful non-monogamous relationship could be just around the corner. Ultimately it’s important to remember that every person has different wants and needs in relationships so take time to explore yours before taking the plunge into something new.

  4. How Can I Increase My Confidence With My Body?

    Increasing confidence with our bodies can be a difficult task, yet it is an important part of self-love and acceptance. It’s time to debunk the myth that we have to look or act a certain way in order to feel good about ourselves – no matter what shape, size, color or gender you are, you should feel beautiful!
    The truth is that body image confidence comes from within. Self-care practices such as positive affirmations, deep breathing exercises and mindfulness activities are all great ways to start building up your inner strength.
    Here’s five simple steps for getting started:
    • Take time each day for yourself – try meditating or journaling
    • Make movement fun by switching up your exercise routine regularly • Fuel your body with nutritious foods that make you feel energized
    • Surround yourself with supportive people who lift you up
    • Celebrate the small victories; remember there is always something to be grateful for!
    It’s so important to recognize that true beauty doesn’t come from physical appearance alone; rather it stems from having a healthy relationship with oneself. When we learn to accept and appreciate ourselves just as we are today, we will begin to shine brighter than ever before. With this newfound understanding, we can move forward on our journey towards better body image confidence.

  5. How Can I Help A Friend Who Is Questioning Their Sexual Orientation?

    The 21st century has seen a revolution in the way we talk about sexual orientation. But for many, it’s still an intimidating subject to discuss – especially if you’re trying to help a friend who is questioning their identity. Let’s time-travel back and take a look at how we can make this conversation easier.

    First off, education is key! Equip yourself with knowledge from reliable sources so that you can be prepared for any questions your friend might have. Additionally, provide them with safe spaces where they won’t feel judged or misunderstood; try inviting them out for coffee or taking walks together instead of forcing structured conversations. Showing acceptance rather than judgement will go a long way towards helping your friend open up about their feelings without fear of stigma.

    Be sure to remind your friend that there is no right answer when it comes to exploring their sexuality – what matters most is that they are comfortable and confident in whatever decision they make. Listen attentively and offer support every step of the way. Ultimately, as a good friend, all you need to do is respect and accept your pal however they choose to identify!

Antoinette R. Burton, MSW
Antoinette R. Burton, MSW
Antoinette is a Michigan-based MSW Sexual Health Educator with 10+ years experience. She received her Master's from University of Michigan and specializes in inclusive sex ed for youth, LGBTQ+, college students, and adults. Believes access to accurate sexual health information is key to overall well-being.

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